- ABOUT THE POINT OF MARRIAGE -
Namaskar,
Is it true that really LFT's must get married? Because I have noticed how
Dadas are highly concerned on this point and they often convince LFT's to
either (a) get married or (b) in straight way those Acaryas inject in the
minds of those LFT's that 'if you want to remain celibate then become WT'.
Under these circumstances, most of the time ultimately those LFTs do get
married. And by this way gradually our LFT system has gotten ruined or
paralysed. And the reason is obvious: In this modern world, doing social
service work full-time and at the same time looking after one's unit family
life and caring for the children is not possible.
LFT LIFE AND MARRIED LIFE DO NOT MIX
So we have seen that those inspired youths who were engaged in full-time
service to the society on the platform of AM, until they were married their
role and output was very good. They were hard working & dedicated. But as
soon as those same LFTs got married, they felt themselves surrounded by
innumerable personal problems of their own family, children, etc.
Then, struggling in this way between the two commitments of LFT and family
life, neither could they do full-time social service nor could they look
after their family life properly. In result their own children got
negatively affected and started hating AM.
Many examples are there of this especially in India. Where married LFT's
continue in their dedicated work for AM but in that way their family got
disturbed in many ways. Partly because they hardly had any income and also
because of lack of time spent with the family. Then in that case the
children see that they are not getting what others have-- not proper
clothes, education, or money and ultimately under such conditions they get
one negative impression of AM.
OTHER EFFECTS
Furthermore I personally know so many LFT's who started suffering from
inferiority complexes on the mundane level of earning money, worldly
comforts, and about their own children, family education. And in that state
of mind which is filled with inferiority complex, nobody can give the balm
of peace to the suffering humanity.
Because if someone is suffering from psychic ailments of their own, then
how can they remove those same ailments in others' lives. It is commonly
seen how many LFTs after getting married became so much self-occupied by
their personal and own family problems.
And they did not have the time or opportunity to think on the matter of
social service. So on both the fronts they lost-- because they were leading
the life of LFT so they did not care about the proper job or earning
source. But when they suddenly forced / convinced to marry, then in a flash
the situation went from positive to very negative.
We are also aware about many LFTs who worked for some time as LFT without
caring for their worldly qualifications and after getting married they
started feeling the need of proper money and job. In which case some of
them started feeling repentance that why they became LFT. And they began
questioning themselves that why they did not care about own career, degree,
diploma or proper job earlier. Because now their married life became one
nightmare.
So these are some of the common concerns, difficulties and problems related
to LFT life in our organization these days.
BABA'S GUIDELINE
Now let us see what our Guru says, then this disputed matter can be solved.
Because in this world everyone has their own logic. So if we investigate
what is Baba's eternal truth and we keep that view in mind and start our
discussion then the outcome will be healthy.
REMAINING CELIBATE AS LFT IS A DHARMIC STAND,
IT IS NOT SINFUL
So on this point Baba has given a very significant and in-depth teaching in
the Namah Shivaya Shantaya book, section Shivokti 3. In this following
teaching Baba's guideline is very straight forward. It does not have any
ambiguity or convolutedness. In clear-cut language Baba teaches us that
those who want to do something great for the general society or for the
welfare of one and all, then they should remain unmarried.
Baba says, "Those who want to shoulder a greater responsibility out of the
dictates of a noble and great ideology and find it impossible to accept the
bondages of family life, should remain single." (NSS, p. 115)
So Baba's teaching is very clear and we have seen in the practical life
also that when LFTs are bound in marriage then it is very difficult for
them to wholeheartedly serve and give 100% time for the cause of the entire
humanity.
LFT vs LPT
One other point: If LFTs are involved sometime in their own family problems
and sometime for problems of general society then it means that they are
not giving full time. And in that condition they cannot be called as local
full-time worker-- their situation will be LPT (Local Part-Time).
Because when the full form of the abbreviation of LFT means Local Full
Timer, then surely they have to give full-time otherwise they will not be
LFT. And full time cannot be given when one is in the bond of family life.
That is why LFT and married life are not working together.
So we have to think on this very point. Because nowadays our LFT system is
basically defunct. Means whatever was existing got deteriorated; and
whatever was existing lost its vitality.
NEED OF THE HOUR
The demand of the time is to create more & more LFTs because LFTs are the
full-time link between the common mass and WTs. Reason being LFTs are more
aware about their own local areas than WTs. So if our LFT structure is
functioning properly then our WTs will more easily execute our social
service programs of Ananda Marga. Otherwise, without the help of LFTs, when
Wts are transferred to new places then they face enormous problem to start
everything from the beginning.
brotherly,
Acintya
Note 1: Get married= WTs are telling or preaching to LFTs that either you
get married or become WT. There are some cases where LFTs do not like to
become WT b/c while living with Wts those LFTs saw first-hand many of the
negativities and Himalayan problems that WTs undergo, and their way of
exploitation to others and by others to them. So because of living close by
WTs and seeing all those things, then in that case many LFTs do not feel
comfortable to join along as a WT. This is one of the reasons. And those
LFTs who decide not to marry and remain as LFT then pressure comes 'You
have to have marry otherwise I push you to be WT. Choose either one. You
cannot remain as LFT and unmarried'. In this situation innocent LFTs feel
themselves to be in an awkward situation. They find themselves standing on
one small rock between one chasm and one ocean. And with pressed mind in
uncomfortable state they half-hearted resolve that, 'Oh, oh okay, if I have
to opt one then I have to choose married life.'
Note 2: I have seen here in India that those LFTs who are unmarried, their
work is excellent. Since long time they are continuing their services and
welfare activities unhindered. But unfortunately those who got married
either they left their LFT ships or got plunged into the quagmire of family
life and they became dysfunctional in deep organisational involvement. So
they became liability on both the sides: family life and organisational life.
Ac. Raghunathji is one such example. He has always been greedy towards
Margiis' pockets. In spite of the fact that margiis and WTs point fingers
at his accountability and question him about his financial dealings. But
Ac. Raghunathji is so much concerned with his own unit feeling that for one
or other matter he collects money but then he finally diverts those funds
toward his laokik family. This is the unfortunate trend in his life and
since many years this is going on and everyone in India is aware about Ac'
Raghunathji's case. Also, in spite of having a good heart Ac. Raghunathji
has remained unable to take care of his subordinates' lft welfare. That is
another critical point.
Here we can conclude that married life is needed and important for aspect
of society building; but for LFT's it is proved as impractical.
Note 3: The root cause behind this entire LFT issue is the following
defective mentality: 'That we WTs are dedicated & no one else can be
treated as a dedicated'. This sort of misunderstanding is the cause of
ruining the LFT structure.
When we know the truth is that LFTs can and should be just as dedicated as
WTs, because dedication is not something external only. That is why there
are many cases where it looks like someone is fully dedicated but in
reality that person is self-engrossed and involved only in their own belly.
So superficially they dedicated in that they wear the dress, but
practically they are not.
The point is that the dedication of sincere LFT is equally important as
that of good WTs. And when LFTs are allowed and encouraged to express their
dedication then great things can be done for Baba's mission.
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Truth Behind
Baba says, "This sort of treatment by hypnotic spell, people say, was
started by Dr. Mesmer of France, and so this system is known as
"mesmerism." But prior to Dr. Mesmer, this system was known to Indians. In
India it was named "raksasii vidya." In ancient India (by ancient India I
mean the non-Aryans, the natives of India) there was a non-Aryan lady
doctor, Karkatii Raksasii. This raksasii was very famous for her mesmeric
treatment. This sort of treatment should therefore not have been known as
"mesmerism" -- it should have been known as something different."
"Hence we find that in the Mahabharata age, there was surgery, ayurveda,
vaedyaka shastra, visa cikitsa, and homeopathy ; and people were not
unacquainted with mesmeric treatment either. This proves that medical
science was not underdeveloped." (MHB, p.25)
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