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About The Point of Marriage

Date: 14 Jan 2005 03:43:29 -0000 From: "Acintya Deva" To: Subject: About The Point of Marriage Baba "Maner ma'jhe khunji shudhu toma're..." - P.S. 712 Purport: Baba, in my mind I am searching only You-- but those past memories of days-by-gone which are buried in the mind are swirling all around. Baba, I am trying desperately to only think about You but those old memories are hovering all around me. Baba, the dark clouds of doubt and suspicion come very close and disturb me; and they also get blown far away into the oblivion, by Your grace. Seeing this unique play of light and shadow my mind gets intoxicated. Baba, while living in this transitory world I get captivated by both the good and bad things. The panoramic crowd of the boats comes and again floats away-- and I just remain lying there alone on the bank of the river*. Baba, please come close my Beloved; please grace me. O' Baba, this is not the time to go on playing Your liila with me. There is no time for that-- most of my life has already passed, and now death is knocking. Already I have gotten too involved in this liila of Yours. Now just please come with Your sweet loving smile. Baba, if You love me then come and sit here-- very close to me. Please do not continue to play Your divine game of hide and seek, again and again. Baba, I am struggling hard in my sadhana and dhyan, please grace me by coming close... * Here Baba is painting one symbolic picture. Because when anyone is sitting on the riverbank and any boat comes along, then naturally that person is curious to see what is going on and they want to look at all the people and things on the boat. So the 'crowd of boats' refers to the colourful panorama and attractive things of this mundane world. And 'sitting on the shore' means the sadhaka is trying to do sadhana. The sense is that in this state, when the sadhaka sits for meditation then so many scenes, thoughts, and desires enter the mind. And 'lying there alone on the river bank' means that ultimately the devotee wants to cross that river and reach to Parama Purusa. That is why he is sitting there trying to do sadhana-- in order to reach unto Him. But in that process the devotee gets caught up in watching these various eye-catching, worldly attractions represented by boats going up and down the river.
Namaskar, Is it true that really LFT's must get married? Because I have noticed how Dadas are highly concerned on this point and they often convince LFT's to either (a) get married or (b) in straight way those Acaryas inject in the minds of those LFT's that 'if you want to remain celibate then become WT'. Under these circumstances, most of the time ultimately those LFTs do get married. And by this way gradually our LFT system has gotten ruined or paralysed. And the reason is obvious: In this modern world, doing social service work full-time and at the same time looking after one's unit family life and caring for the children is not possible.
So we have seen that those inspired youths who were engaged in full-time service to the society on the platform of AM, until they were married their role and output was very good. They were hard working & dedicated. But as soon as those same LFTs got married, they felt themselves surrounded by innumerable personal problems of their own family, children, etc. Then, struggling in this way between the two commitments of LFT and family life, neither could they do full-time social service nor could they look after their family life properly. In result their own children got negatively affected and started hating AM. Many examples are there of this especially in India. Where married LFT's continue in their dedicated work for AM but in that way their family got disturbed in many ways. Partly because they hardly had any income and also because of lack of time spent with the family. Then in that case the children see that they are not getting what others have-- not proper clothes, education, or money and ultimately under such conditions they get one negative impression of AM.
Furthermore I personally know so many LFT's who started suffering from inferiority complexes on the mundane level of earning money, worldly comforts, and about their own children, family education. And in that state of mind which is filled with inferiority complex, nobody can give the balm of peace to the suffering humanity. Because if someone is suffering from psychic ailments of their own, then how can they remove those same ailments in others' lives. It is commonly seen how many LFTs after getting married became so much self-occupied by their personal and own family problems. And they did not have the time or opportunity to think on the matter of social service. So on both the fronts they lost-- because they were leading the life of LFT so they did not care about the proper job or earning source. But when they suddenly forced / convinced to marry, then in a flash the situation went from positive to very negative. We are also aware about many LFTs who worked for some time as LFT without caring for their worldly qualifications and after getting married they started feeling the need of proper money and job. In which case some of them started feeling repentance that why they became LFT. And they began questioning themselves that why they did not care about own career, degree, diploma or proper job earlier. Because now their married life became one nightmare. So these are some of the common concerns, difficulties and problems related to LFT life in our organization these days.
Now let us see what our Guru says, then this disputed matter can be solved. Because in this world everyone has their own logic. So if we investigate what is Baba's eternal truth and we keep that view in mind and start our discussion then the outcome will be healthy.
So on this point Baba has given a very significant and in-depth teaching in the Namah Shivaya Shantaya book, section Shivokti 3. In this following teaching Baba's guideline is very straight forward. It does not have any ambiguity or convolutedness. In clear-cut language Baba teaches us that those who want to do something great for the general society or for the welfare of one and all, then they should remain unmarried. Baba says, "Those who want to shoulder a greater responsibility out of the dictates of a noble and great ideology and find it impossible to accept the bondages of family life, should remain single." (NSS, p. 115) So Baba's teaching is very clear and we have seen in the practical life also that when LFTs are bound in marriage then it is very difficult for them to wholeheartedly serve and give 100% time for the cause of the entire humanity.
One other point: If LFTs are involved sometime in their own family problems and sometime for problems of general society then it means that they are not giving full time. And in that condition they cannot be called as local full-time worker-- their situation will be LPT (Local Part-Time). Because when the full form of the abbreviation of LFT means Local Full Timer, then surely they have to give full-time otherwise they will not be LFT. And full time cannot be given when one is in the bond of family life. That is why LFT and married life are not working together. So we have to think on this very point. Because nowadays our LFT system is basically defunct. Means whatever was existing got deteriorated; and whatever was existing lost its vitality.
The demand of the time is to create more & more LFTs because LFTs are the full-time link between the common mass and WTs. Reason being LFTs are more aware about their own local areas than WTs. So if our LFT structure is functioning properly then our WTs will more easily execute our social service programs of Ananda Marga. Otherwise, without the help of LFTs, when Wts are transferred to new places then they face enormous problem to start everything from the beginning. brotherly, Acintya Note 1: Get married= WTs are telling or preaching to LFTs that either you get married or become WT. There are some cases where LFTs do not like to become WT b/c while living with Wts those LFTs saw first-hand many of the negativities and Himalayan problems that WTs undergo, and their way of exploitation to others and by others to them. So because of living close by WTs and seeing all those things, then in that case many LFTs do not feel comfortable to join along as a WT. This is one of the reasons. And those LFTs who decide not to marry and remain as LFT then pressure comes 'You have to have marry otherwise I push you to be WT. Choose either one. You cannot remain as LFT and unmarried'. In this situation innocent LFTs feel themselves to be in an awkward situation. They find themselves standing on one small rock between one chasm and one ocean. And with pressed mind in uncomfortable state they half-hearted resolve that, 'Oh, oh okay, if I have to opt one then I have to choose married life.' Note 2: I have seen here in India that those LFTs who are unmarried, their work is excellent. Since long time they are continuing their services and welfare activities unhindered. But unfortunately those who got married either they left their LFT ships or got plunged into the quagmire of family life and they became dysfunctional in deep organisational involvement. So they became liability on both the sides: family life and organisational life. Ac. Raghunathji is one such example. He has always been greedy towards Margiis' pockets. In spite of the fact that margiis and WTs point fingers at his accountability and question him about his financial dealings. But Ac. Raghunathji is so much concerned with his own unit feeling that for one or other matter he collects money but then he finally diverts those funds toward his laokik family. This is the unfortunate trend in his life and since many years this is going on and everyone in India is aware about Ac' Raghunathji's case. Also, in spite of having a good heart Ac. Raghunathji has remained unable to take care of his subordinates' lft welfare. That is another critical point. Here we can conclude that married life is needed and important for aspect of society building; but for LFT's it is proved as impractical. Note 3: The root cause behind this entire LFT issue is the following defective mentality: 'That we WTs are dedicated & no one else can be treated as a dedicated'. This sort of misunderstanding is the cause of ruining the LFT structure. When we know the truth is that LFTs can and should be just as dedicated as WTs, because dedication is not something external only. That is why there are many cases where it looks like someone is fully dedicated but in reality that person is self-engrossed and involved only in their own belly. So superficially they dedicated in that they wear the dress, but practically they are not. The point is that the dedication of sincere LFT is equally important as that of good WTs. And when LFTs are allowed and encouraged to express their dedication then great things can be done for Baba's mission.
************************************************* Truth Behind
Baba says, "This sort of treatment by hypnotic spell, people say, was started by Dr. Mesmer of France, and so this system is known as "mesmerism." But prior to Dr. Mesmer, this system was known to Indians. In India it was named "raksasii vidya." In ancient India (by ancient India I mean the non-Aryans, the natives of India) there was a non-Aryan lady doctor, Karkatii Raksasii. This raksasii was very famous for her mesmeric treatment. This sort of treatment should therefore not have been known as "mesmerism" -- it should have been known as something different." "Hence we find that in the Mahabharata age, there was surgery, ayurveda, vaedyaka shastra, visa cikitsa, and homeopathy ; and people were not unacquainted with mesmeric treatment either. This proves that medical science was not underdeveloped." (MHB, p.25)

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