== SHOULD WE OVERLOOK THIS NASTY SITUATION ==
Namaskar,
Now it is commonly known that one top posted Dada spends so many of his
waking moments with a particular Didi.
Yet Baba has clearly given all Ananda Margiis - and especially Wts -
specific conduct rules which clearly mandate the separation of the sexes.
Indeed, everyone in our Marga knows that one Dada and one Didi are not
supposed to be traveling and living together. Nor are they supposed to
be gossiping on the phone for hours and hours about non-organisational
topics.
Unfortunately this is allegedly going in at least a select few cases.
Before mentioning the name of one highly posted Dada who is seemingly
indulged in this manner, we should once again review some of Baba's
rules for Wts.
BABA'S STRICT GUIDELINES
These following conduct rules apply to all wearing Wt dress - none are
exempt. By this way the purity and strength of our devoted cadre is
maintained.
Baba says, "Avadhuta must not remain in a lonely place with any female."
(32 Rules For Avadhutas, pt #13)
Baba says, "One should not look at the face of the opposite sex except
at the time of nursing." (37 Workers Rules, pt #15)
Baba says, "You will protect yourself from sexual weakness and luxury."
(Fourteen Points, pt #12)
It is Baba's grace that He has blessed us with rules and regulations in
all realms of life, by this way our Marga can be of a high moral
standard and not fall prey to sexual lapses as has happened with so many
churches, temples, spiritual groups, and so-called great sadhus etc.
Hence, nobody in our Marga is above the rules; all must adhere to Baba's
stated guidelines.
WHAT ONE SENIOR DADA IS DOING
For all of the above reasons and more, many are telling that Dada
Nigama'nandji must pay heed. Because he spends all his time with one
particular Didi.
They talk together, smile together, walk together, talk together, travel
together, eat together, gossip together, joke together, and plan
together - among other things. Everything is done together; that is the
way Dada Nigamananda is reportedly conducting his life in connection
with one Didi.
Indeed they are so much like two peas in a pod, that if you have seen
Dada Nigamanandji in the last year or two, then most likely you know
exactly which Didi it is. Because they are always together.
What they do or don't do physically is one matter, but they are so
mentally involved with one another that they can hardly tolerate being
separated. Such is the degree to which they are linked and attached.
The most common complaint about Dadaji is that it looks like he is
totally unable to exist without that Didi as his consort. They seem
inseparable - period.
Nigamananda recently brought that Didi with him all the way to Berlin
sector. The idea of being there without her was apparently more than his
heart could bear. So he arranged to bring her along.
The only question left to ask: Is Dada Nigamanandji bigger than Baba's
conduct rules? Are we to simply overlook this nasty situation?
This is definitely a matter for us to carefully consider. One of the
most pressing matters is that our senior Dada Nigamanandji seems to have
indoctrinated his favoured Didi into behaving poorly wherever she goes.
Some of her latest ventures are recounted below.
Perhaps the biggest issue of all is that Dada's example sets a poor
precedent for younger workers. It gives them the idea that they too need
not follow the AM conduct rules as given by Baba.
HOW DIDI HAS BEEN AFFECTED
Now let's see some of the ways the unnamed Didi has been affected.
When in Delhi sector, this Didi spends cent-per-cent of her time with
Dada Nigamanandji, or entertaining other Dadas. Because that is what
Nigamanandji taught her to do.
And now she is spreading those "teachings" in other sectors.
Didi is so attached to Dada N that in order to be with him in Berlin
sector she pretended to have work in NY sector - that was the only way
she could manage to get to Berlin sector to be with Nigamananda. Didi
pretended her time in Europe was a mere stopover before going to NY.
Hence after the Berlin DMS Didiji toured NY - and here is what she did.
Upon arriving to NY, Didiji immediately glued herself to one Dada. She
went everywhere with this Dada. Because that is what Nigamanandji
trained her to do.
So right away she and one not-to-be-named Dada traveled together alone
in a car all over the USA and then they toured through Mexico as well.
And the entire time it was just the two of them in a car and then they
were together wherever they stayed at night.
It seems Baba's divine conduct rules were just let in the dust as this
Didi and Dada traveled together, as though they were man and wife.
Didi acted as though the whole thing was quite natural since this is
what she does with Nigamanandji when in India and in fact she was in NY
to champion his cause. So she felt very "at home" moving around with
this new Dada - always at his hip.
However, most of the margiis were very uncomfortable seeing this.
Because the whole affair was very un-sannyasi-like. It was weird to be
watching this Dada and Didi go all over the place, confiding in each
other, and sharing each and every moment together. Everyone started
whispering and wondering about them - and rightly so.
Because all margiis understand this type of behaviour is totally against
Baba's conduct rules. Yet Didi was quite casual about the whole affair.
Some say she encourages Dadas to go against wt conduct rules - all
because she has been an ongoing victim of Nigamananda's ways.
Thus the poor dealing that Nigamananda taught her is spreading around
the globe - luring in other persons. That is the terrible harm.
All this has very serious ramifications - which we shall discuss.
DIDI CANNOT RELATE WITH DIDIS
First, one other point that must be added: Because of the wrong teaching
delivered by Nigamanandji, his favoured Didi is unable to develop
sisterly bonds or even manage normal conversations with other Didis.
Always she feels she must be with the Dadas - entertaining them in some
way or another.
That is why when in Delhi sector or any other land, this Didi keeps her
distance from other Didis. She neither works with them, nor travels with
them, nor speaks with them, nor eats with them. She is not friends with
the Didis.
Thus her entire approach is 100% polar opposite of Baba's mandate.
Baba says, "It should be remembered that a woman’s friend is a woman and
a man’s friend is a man." (CC-1)
All in all the plight of this Didi is a bit sad and unfortunate - and no
doubt the brunt of the blame rests on Nigamanandji's shoulders.
THE RAMIFICATIONS
Here are some of the harmful repercussions of Nigamananda's actions:
1) If a leader or group controller like Nigamananda is not following
Baba's teachings in his personal life, then it becomes the trend amongst
junior workers to follow that misguided manner as well. And that is what
we see unfolding today.
2) Nowadays, there are a growing number of wts who follow this "loose
style" of living. It has begun spreading like cancer. To remedy the
situation a plan is underway to contact all such workers involved in
sketchy or questionable dealings and give them the opportunity to
rectify their behaviour. If they do not, the only option is to bring the
matter to one and all in hopes that circumstantial pressure will help
such workers to mend their ways. The main aim is to stop the loose
behaviour - not to expose a particular worker or pool of workers.
3) The vast majority of Wts are very good. They adhere to Sixteen Points
and they know how some Wts are behaving. Indeed it sickens them to see
such things. So they know what is going on but they do not want to
openly oppose such events, like Nigamananda's manner, because that will
only invite unbearable victimisation. So they keep quiet.
WHAT SHOULD BE DONE
While at the outset, the tactic may not be to "go public" when we see
Dadas and Didis unusually close, what we can all do is softly and gently
approach those doing wrong and ask them to rectify their behavior. They
should not become one bad example such that in their old age they lose
sight of dharma, as happened with Nigamananda. That makes for their own
degradation and sends a poor message to new and younger workers. Thus we
should all help our workers adhere to the tenets of AM - this is first
and foremost for their welfare.
BABA'S BLESSING
By Baba's grace, we can bring our Marga back to its glory by setting an
example of pristine behaviour and inspiring or pressurizing others to do
the same. We cannot allow some Wts to slide in this way. Overlooking the
matter is not the answer, rather that only invites more problems.
Baba says, 'Hence, all Ananda Margis, when they see other Margis acting
against the principles of yama and niyama, must make them shun this
habit either by sweet or harsh words or by dealing even more strictly.
Thus they will have to make the society strong." (GHC)
Namaskar,
Parashakti
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What Every Intelligent Person Should Do
Lord Shrii Shrii Anandamurtiji says, "Each and every intelligent person of
the world, everyone who has an iota of intelligence, should try to goad all
their energies, all their propensities unto Him. He is the Supreme Shelter.
There is no alternative." (AV-3, p.33)
Note: In today's crude capitalist society where the degenerated ways of
materialism run rampant, the common people rush head-long into negative
activities. But we Ananda Margiis must not get affected or swayed by
this mass movement-- where people run without thinking and ruin
themselves. Rather as sadhakas, we should do what is intelligent. We
should be intelligent. And per Baba's above guideline the most
intelligent people are those sadhakas direct their energies toward Him
and surrender everything unto His lotus feet.
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