Re: News: Punching & Hair Pulling by VSS Didi

Subject: Re: News: Punching & Hair Pulling by VSS Didi
Date: Mon, 21 May 2012 16:30:23 +1000
To: AM-GLOBAL

Baba

== RE: NEWS: PUNCHING & HAIR PULLING BY VSS DIDI ==

(Note: This following letter is in response to yesterday's report. Part of that report is appended below after the signature. There is also a link to the original report in its entirety. - AM-GLOBAL Moderators)

Namaskar,

Shocking incident, you say.

I don't think that this is shocking at all. Many senior margiis and senior acarya's behavior is disgraceful / distasteful and we are getting so immune to this animalistic behaviour.  Nowadays, it's becoming the norm in AM culture and then talk of the art of concealing this behavior from the rest of the AM family or blame the victim of such a crime - this is the nature of domestic violence (DV) which our Baba condemns out of our lives forever as in CaryaCarya-I.

 

So in short, there should be some counselling for the child and the Didiji who were attacked and there should be some DV (domestic violence) counselling for the attacker Didi but our AM structure has not fully flourished to offer this service.

 

So now it has passed; but it's not too late - it's time to address this large-scale issue that sucks the life blood out of our society and daunts children and women and men in some cases. DV (domestic violence) has to stop and AM Central really needs to implement some concrete measure to address this issue by setting up MU's all over the world with boot camps run by experienced psychologists within the marg who understand and have insight into the mentality of such violators and their impact on their family.  It's quite easy to pick out families within the marg who have DV (domestic violence) interwoven in them who portray a life of surrealism.  I'm sure close family acaryas would know what I am talking about.  All acaryas should undergo training regarding this ahimsa [1] in thought, word and action, and really be given the psychological tools for addressing / practicing these principles in daily life and also be educated on how to disperse and share that info diplomatically to the offenders. Acaryas should not hide behind the fact that it is a family matter and they shall not interfere.  Women and children need a voice as well and they need to be heard.

For this Didi to hurt the second Didi, she must have experienced this type of violence on herself and was a victim as well.  We need to break this cycle by better education and reprogramming the brain to react to situations in a choice mode and not in an automatic mode (the way we were grown up) - Baba Nam. It is VITAL that we, as a large community, identify that if VSS central Didi is carrying on like this then we have to better elect and educate those Didi's in higher positions of the way we would like to be treated by others - and we ourselves need to behave in that manner - it is very difficult for offenders of violence to change without proper psychological expert guidance.

This animalistic instinct / samskaras are ripened during our practices and need to be dealt with proper care when in the objective world by doing lots of service but not everyone is able to realise that.

 

In summary and in all seriousness,

1.  Awareness or Peace Camps

2.  Service / sadavrata (not forgetting that lovely kiirtan we drown in and bliss out)

 

This is very important and needs high priority even in this tumultuous state of the organisation.  It would be a good starting point for sharing the love.

 

Namaskar

from one AM victim to thousands out there.

In Him

Your Sis


[1] Ahimsa: "Ahiḿsá means not inflicting pain or hurt on anybody by thought, word or action... one will have to guide one’s conduct carefully to ensure that one’s thought or actions cause pain to nobody and are unjust to none. Any thought or action with the intention of causing harm to someone else amounts to hiḿsá." (A Guide to Human Conduct, Ahimsa) 



On 05/20/2012 10:21 PM, AM-GLOBAL wrote:

"One day during the camp, young girl [Adiiti 4 1/2 yrs old] was hungry. Because this was a new place for her, the young child wandered around looking for some food, and entered into the room of one global VSS Didi. VSS Didi was not in her room. Someone saw this little girl there and gave her something to eat. Within a short time, VSS Didi returned back to her room and saw the child eating the sweets, which she (VSS Didi) had secretly been keeping under her cot. In her fury, VSS Didi immediately slapped the child, and then angrily abused and scolded her harshly. The young girl burst into tears - sobbing and sobbing - completely upset and shaken by what had happened.

Immediately, DSL Didi came running and found her home girl in tears. DSL Didi consoled the child and put her on her lap. She calmed her down and gently said, "You know that when you need something you should ask me. Why did you enter that room and eat there. Let me know and I will help you." DSL Didi was very nurturing and reassured the young girl. The young girl started to feel better.

But VSS Didi overheard what DSL didi was saying and then mightily attacked DSL Didi. VSS Didi grabbed Didi's hair and started punching her. It was a vicious attack, but DSL Didi did not fight back. She absorbed the blows set on her by VSS Didi. It was a brutal and torturous scene. "

Here is the first letter in its entirety:

http://am-global-01.blogspot.com/2012/05/news-punching-hair-pulling-by-vss-didi.html